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9/11Histrionic Woman's Guide to Men
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- 2018-02-12
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- histrionic, narcissist, sexulaity, relationships, personality disorders, approach-avoidance repetition compulsion, men, women, promiscuit, mind games, power, gender, love, infatuation, attraction, boredom, abandonment anxiety
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- English
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html
Histrionics respond differently to two types of men.
MEN TYPE 1
These are men who openly desire the histrionic, are infatuated with her, or even love her. The histrionic sees herself through their eyes and she likes what she sees. She
falls in love with herself through them.
But after a brief affair or a few encounters with this type of men, they begin to bore the histrionic and irritate her and she begins to devalue them because there is no thrill, chase, conquest, hunt, or competition involved in the totally predictable relationship.
The histrionic should limit her contact with such men to a passive role: accept their admiration, attention, and infatuation but not take it any further. This way she will not create enemies and will be able to dedicate her scarce resources to Man Type 2 which is absolutely her only kind of Man.
MAN TYPE 2
These are men who are visibly attracted to the histrionic and even desire her sexually, but are avoidant emotionally.
This is the only type of man with whom the histrionic can have a long-term relationship, however dysfunctional and painful the interaction may be.
With these men there is always some game going on: constant hunting, the adrenaline-filled ups and downs, competing with other women, conquest and loss, etc.
When the histrionic is in a relationship with such an emotionally unavailable man, she should mirror him: she should approach and avoid, be his and not his, provoke his jealousy, vanish and reappear, promise and withhold, give and torture. This kind of conduct will render these men dependent on the histrionic.
(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
Histrionics respond differently to two types of men.
MEN TYPE 1
These are men who openly desire the histrionic, are infatuated with her, or even love her. The histrionic sees herself through their eyes and she likes what she sees. She
falls in love with herself through them.
But after a brief affair or a few encounters with this type of men, they begin to bore the histrionic and irritate her and she begins to devalue them because there is no thrill, chase, conquest, hunt, or competition involved in the totally predictable relationship.
The histrionic should limit her contact with such men to a passive role: accept their admiration, attention, and infatuation but not take it any further. This way she will not create enemies and will be able to dedicate her scarce resources to Man Type 2 which is absolutely her only kind of Man.
MAN TYPE 2
These are men who are visibly attracted to the histrionic and even desire her sexually, but are avoidant emotionally.
This is the only type of man with whom the histrionic can have a long-term relationship, however dysfunctional and painful the interaction may be.
With these men there is always some game going on: constant hunting, the adrenaline-filled ups and downs, competing with other women, conquest and loss, etc.
When the histrionic is in a relationship with such an emotionally unavailable man, she should mirror him: she should approach and avoid, be his and not his, provoke his jealousy, vanish and reappear, promise and withhold, give and torture. This kind of conduct will render these men dependent on the histrionic.
(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html)
